Rape Part 3

A woman can often become a victim of rape from the time she gets into a man's car, meets him at his hotel room, or accepts an invitation to have a night cap at his apartment. She can be trapped and rapped in an upstairs bedroom while thirty plus people are partying on the first floor of a frat house.

Unfortunately, drugs and alcohol can and often do play a significant role in date or acquaintance rape. Too much of either can result in a situation where a woman, before she realizes what's going on, can find herself being a victim of rape. On the other hand, even if the female has not been drinking or doing drugs, but her male companion has, he can all of the sudden become physically and sexually aggressive. Sexually aggressive men are basically insecure and when they rape their victim it is not a crime of passion or the result of miscommunication. It does however make them feel strong and in control. This is very typical of the reassure me and/or ego type of rapist.

Moral and sexual standards in our society have plummeted during the past four decades. Female have become more sexually active at younger ages and the birth control pill has been a major factor in this increase. Sexual activity between college men and women is at an all time high. Many college-age men expect sex if they have spent money on a date. If they know the woman is sexually active, they feel they are entitled to their share.

Mixed signals between a man and his date are another area of concern. Friendly conversation by the woman may be interpreted as an invitation for sex. "No", no matter how emphatically stated can be construed as "maybe" and in some cases the man is under the delusion that when a woman says "no" she really means "yes". Sometimes a woman may be unsure of how far she wants a sexual relationship to go. Her enjoyment of kissing ans caressing may be her limit. The man then feels cheated, rejected, teased, and misled. He wants satisfaction and the result is RAPE.

Written by: Frank Shilosky